Sep 22, 2015




1100hours GMT on 22 September 1955

That’s the precise date and time that Treena and I were married in St. Mildred (Anglican) Church in Tenterden, Kent, England.

If you were not already aware of my fascination with metaphor and analogy, then I will need to confess that I tend to “suffer” from them…like allergies.

Treena will tell you that I do not suffer…other people do…so usually I will consider backing off…but in this case, I simply cannot!

An acronym is another preoccupation? (I really should be in government) and so, GMT caught my eye. It is, of course, Greenwich Mean Time and is used as the way we measure time…at its starting point. I stumbled over the acronym as I planned for our celebration of the 60th anniversary of our marriage and how we might focus our attention in our time zone of PST (Pacific Standard Time), which is nine hours behind GMT. This meant that we had married at 0200hrs our time…the romantic idea of getting up at that time quickly faded.

Being married and its pure joy has not faded! I remain as firmly wedded to this wonderful woman as I was just 60 years ago and now I have so many added reasons to celebrate.

Three of them are, on this date, gathered about us. Kareena, our youngest, came in from Tennessee; Andy, our son, from Montana. Tessa, with her husband Scott, are part of our “home” team. It is also Tessa’s birthday…a brilliant piece of family planning in our first year of marriage. We all celebrate this day that seems forever both close and distant.

Looking back over so many years I am aware of one amazingly constant thread…

It’s a truly wonderful gift and it has made the world of difference to all our lives. I even found an acronym for DOW –Degree Of Willingness.

Daily I hear the radio reporting the “DOW” as a barometer of the stock market’s kneejerk reactions to the global economy. I always let the word “Dow” help me to reflect not upon our financial investments but upon Treena’s gentle touch, her every dear and loving smile and I am caught up in a thermal of gratitude.

A wise man once said, “The business of life is to prepare for a joyful death.”

Every day with my beloved Treena helps me plan for that inevitable day with a grand ambition that when my time has come…I shall look back (and forward) and smile.

Oh yes! and then there is the real meaning of GMT…Graham Married Treena


  1. Paul Says: September 23, 2015 4:18 pm

    Too beautiful. You are a blessed man, and so was she. Thank you for sharing this.

  2. Sammi Says: September 23, 2015 4:31 pm

    A beautiful article, just awesome to have 60 years committed to the love of your life. Prayers during these seasons of firsts: first birthdays, anniversaries, holidays, special moments. Thank you for sharing your lives with us, and for the encouragement and reminder that as believers, we not only look backward, but forward. *and what an awesome first anniversary present, egg?*

  3. Jeannette Says: September 23, 2015 4:42 pm

    What a beautiful tribute. Praying the Lord continues to abide in you with His peace that passeth ALL understanding! Hallelujah- what a Savior!

  4. Len Lafleche Says: September 23, 2015 5:03 pm

    When I was in my twenties, I watched your show. Your great smile “always” and your sip of wine before a commercial break was so cool!! I was a jock…. hockey football baseball But your show captured me!! It was an awesome show!! Your food always looked so good!! I married a girl named Tauny Nixon who also so loved you both so much! Her good friend being Tessa!! I’m so sorry for the pain you and your family are going through! !! When I saw your wedding picture I immediately saw GMT” GOT MARRIED TODAY” The world needs your and Trenna’s kind of love then we’d all be oK!! God Bless!! xoxo

  5. Cheryl Says: September 23, 2015 8:15 pm

    I was with mom when we found out about Treena’s death. We were in the Olympic Mountains enjoying a rest as we climbed Mt. Townsend. Mom happened to look at her phone and let out a gasp and immediately started crying. After comforting her as best I could, the two of us shared Treena stories and remembered what a remarkable, buoyant spirit she had. She will be missed. I’m sorry for your loss and the hole this will leave in your family. I know your faith and family love will help heal that loss. My thoughts are with you all.

  6. Terry Says: September 24, 2015 3:26 am

    People search their entire lives to find such a love as you shared. It is a beautiful tribute to the willingness on both your parts. Thank you for opening your heart and sharing your love story with the world. I will never forget, as long as I breathe.

  7. Jean N Says: September 25, 2015 3:15 am

    “Laughter is medicine to the bones”. That’s how I fell in love with my future husband at age 8 – he made me laugh! After 43 years and much “DOW” – we still oogle at each other. Thank you for giving us the gift of humor – an essential ingredient to a happy and healthy relationship.

  8. Jean N Says: September 25, 2015 3:19 am

    GMT – Give mom thanks/ God made Treena

  9. Teri Says: September 30, 2015 4:44 pm

    So terribly saddened at the loss of your beloved Treena. I wish all the comforts God can afford you. Treena loved you Graham,and how blessed you were to have each other and the truly beautiful life you shared.

  10. ChefD Says: October 4, 2015 4:14 am

    Graham I am sorry to hear about your loss of your life long partner! It was so great to meet the both of you and feel that love!

  11. Linda Says: March 3, 2016 11:58 am

    ChefD said exactly what I was thinking, when I read of Treena’s passing. It was so great to spend time with you as our boats were parked at the same marina. You took time to share your story and it made a huge impact on us.

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