Reflective Readers Club

Apr 22, 2016

I know my dad loved me…now!

Flash of Silver…the leap that changed my world
Question #19
Rite of Passage Seven –A Fate Worse Than Death–
(1951-1953) Age 17-19 years old

Q: Distant Dads: Was your dad distant, without too much warmth or interest in you? Can you recall just one memory of how he might have revealed his love for you?

Photo of Graham Kerr and His Dad

Poor Dad, he tried so hard…I can see this now but not at the time and not before it was too late to let him know that I loved him too!

He travelled across England (not far) and stayed with me overnight at a pub in Honiton, Devonshire. It was my last night before reporting to the British Army for my two years of National Service.

He settled down, after supper, to ply me with alcohol so that he could see how it might affect me. After two beers I was no longer thirsty. We had an early, uneventful night.

Bright and early we set out for the training camp. At exactly 0900hrs, the time set to begin a full day of induction; he deposited me at the Guard House, “Good luck my boy,” he managed gruffly. He shook my hand and turned about smartly…marching off with a stiff back and arms swinging with precision. He never looked back…but I stood still, watching him go.

I was first in line…a good start made possible by a good man. He had showed me his love but couldn’t say it!

So…what about now?

Oh how I miss him. I have over the years uncovered several very dear examples when he showed his love. He even put his quite bristly face against mine, just once, and seemed to kiss me; I have so wanted that to be so but cannot be sure. We were thousands of miles apart when he died. The doctors said that he had simply turned his face to the wall and had given up.

Please, if your dad is still alive and you can recall just one brief moment of his love…do tell him and see what God might do with even a tiny slice of affection? With God, all things are possible!

P.S. This week I read Treena’s poem Couple Power

 

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64. Return To The Redd

Slow down to do what? Slowing down makes so much sense in our ever speedier world but slow down to do what?  Surely, as we have the time to ponder…we may become aware of a new, bold, focus and purpose for living? Have you found renewed purpose after taking the time to slow down?

Neighbors: We can catch up on the world news in just one keystroke but what do we know of our neighbors and their needs of us?  Are you somehow “connected” to your community and aid its resilience?

Answers and Awareness: In our case we believe the answers we have received from one small voice amid all the babble of our times. Our lives reflect that belief…at least we hope they do. Does your life reflect your awareness of what you have come to understand as the truth?

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63. Community

Despondence: When the economy “tanks” it is easy to pick up on a general mood of despondency. Somehow it is the wrong direction? Does your attitude follow the Dow Jones average?

Happiness: We discovered that “happiness” results when one becomes involved with our neighbors/community and collectively aim to make a positive difference. Have you joined up with others to make life happier somehow?

Time or Money or Both: Giving is often a matter of writing a check and mailing it. Hands-on service is much more time consuming. Have you chosen to give both your time and your financial support to someone?

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62. Topless In Tennessee

Choice…big or small? Numerical or financial success is always measured. Ways that suggest the greatest return beckon; yet the less attractive path can lead to greater understanding. Have you chosen a less promising option…and succeeded?

Housing by the inch: We planned our final home by the useful square inch. No wasted space but enough room to breathe! Have you opted for a smaller space in which to live…and love it?

Appearance (from the street): Once again I had a choice. One in which we were ready to move into a manufactured home. Are we able to set aside what our house looks like after years of being house-proud?

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61. Walking In The Light

Childhood pain: Certainly tough things happened to children and the pain inflicted can last a lifetime. We, in our youth, can also add to the damage done. Could some of your memories be…mistaken (not all…just one or two?)

Damage control: It had been years since I had lied and nobody would ever find out the truth. I knew, however, and I needed to set the record straight. Is there someone, somewhere, that you need to see and with whom you could be reconciled by the truth?

Recording faith: The dear church folks made a record of what they thought might have been a direct “word” from God. Have you experienced a “thought” so powerful that it felt like it could be from God? What was that?

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60. Pulling A U-Turn

Outer image: Does one’s appearance matter when it is more a matter of “content”? Do you think that your chances of success are improved by what you wear?

Fast U-turns: It’s relatively easy to let circumstances lead us to pull fast changes. It’s harder…but better (?) to slow the process down as much as possible. Have you ever made a slow (extended) U-turn? How did it play out?

Depth of understanding: I wanted our viewers to get enough real understanding and not just “skip” something by them. Has speed robbed us of our “depth” of understanding?

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59. The Irritant

Core Purpose: Our Mini-Max idea was designed to minimize risk and maximize flavor. It was less entertaining than my Galloping days and years ahead of its present day popularity. Did you have a great idea that was ahead of its time?

Snapping point: Very little of benefit ever comes from impatience! I had finally had it and went to the courts to defend myself. Nobody, eventually, won! Have you avoided litigation by being restrained and patient?

Reconciliation: We reached a settlement but not reconciliation. I deeply regret that fact and should have made an attempt. Is there still time for you to seek for reconciliation with someone who was once a “good” partner?

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58. The Penultimate Plan

A simple request: It began simply enough but it had a life of its own when once the “profit motive” was embraced by all. Did you ever decide to “go beyond” your well-considered plans and did that result in a situation like ours?

Dependency: We began our return to the media as a way to be free of the need to be supported as a non-profit. Our choices led us into a total dependency that held us up for many years. Have you ever felt such a sense of obligation? How did you get free?

Lighting strikes…twice? Our early success became everyone’s expectation. I was apparently the same man…but what I now did was so different! Can “change” sometimes mean that we are less successful?

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57. Up, Up and away

Faith alone: By some it is considered the “gold standard” of sincere belief…to “let go and let God”. In our case it had been more a matter of presumption than faith. Have you presumed and suffered an adverse consequence?

Halving the risk: It is a place to start; simply list the possibly risky foods and half the serving size. Fill the plate with the beneficial foods you love. It works! Have you ever tried this kind of overall portion exchange –did it work?

Willingness: It really does take “two to tango”. I needed Treena to fully understand and be willing to make the creative changes she did…wholeheartedly. Have you “agreed together” with someone else to make major changes?

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56. Replication?

Over-extended: when “cheap money” fuels a “bubble” it is often followed by a drastic change in the economy where everyone suffers. Our small work failed. Did you also fail in a recession? Did it lead to something better?

Presumptive health insurance: We couldn’t afford health insurance so we presumed that our miracle of the past would simply continue. It didn’t. Have you “presumed by faith” and suffered adverse consequences?

Commerce and Christianity: We were taught how to make good business practice provide for better-administered service to others. Is “business” a good template for spiritual action?

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